Have you felt like you are dragging a bag of leaky onions around behind you? Do you have a list of struggles, complaints, to dos, woes as long as your arm? I get it, really. I made an art out of dragging that stinky pile of rotten veggies around. I was 100% focused on that other shoe dropping any second—so much so that I couldn’t celebrate my accomplishments. YIKES!
I came face-to-face with a realization that I was sick of hearing myself bitch. I made my list of struggles into WHO I was being (in addition to what I wasn’t doing for myself). I wasn’t interested (at ALL) in that version of me. One of the key lessons I learned doing my masters’ in Community Psychology is that we do better, achieve more and are healthier when we focus on what we CAN do versus what we can’t do. Okay, so you’ve heard all of this before, be positive, you’ll get more bees with honey, keep a stiff upper lip. What’s different here is that I’m not going to tell you to ignore your struggles, but to use them for GOOD.
Get going! Okay—so here’s something to play with. Feel free to use this worksheet or 3×5 cards or paper or your fabulous brain to play my game, Struggles+Strengths=Strategies:
List all the issues, conflicts and delayed decisions you have going on in the Struggles column. Then, list all those amazing things about you: your talents, savory skills, or anything you get complimented for, under Strengths. Now, take a Struggle and pair it with a Strength, any strength, and let your creative juices flow! Create as many Strategies as you can, a “could do” list that may help you turn your Struggle into a success!
How’d it work for you? Did you find any surprise strengths? Strategies? Get stuck? Ask a friend to help you play, post your questions and comments below so we can all learn from your greatness.