Comments on: Flu Reason: (34/40)

By: CindyMorefield

CindyMorefield — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 01:11:50 +0000

Glad it was useful, and that you were able to work well. Good work feels so good, eh? (appropos of your most recent post!)
So are you truly feeling well now? I hope so!

By: dyanavalentine

dyanavalentine — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 23:20:59 +0000

Cindy: thank you for being kind and so generous with your support an insights. I love the perspective on what's good and “could” happen, versus what is really important. I used your litmus test today and eliminated the “good to dos” felt amazing and got superb work done.

By: dyanavalentine

dyanavalentine — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 12:44:54 +0000

I can't wait to hear what more we can learn from Daken! Please share stories, as they come! I'm feeling back to 95% now–fyew! Tough one. Glad to be out of the house again.

By: CindyMorefield

CindyMorefield — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 13:26:33 +0000

Having to do everything is a mighty big burden! Not to mention impossible. But even if narrowed to the subset of things you want to do or things it would be “good” to do, it's still unmanageable, especially for folks, such as yourself, who are gifted at ideation! Just way too many good ideas for all of them to be actionable. So I think choosing becomes important.

I'll be interested to hear what you gleaned from the dream focusing.

By: CindyMorefield

CindyMorefield — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 13:18:57 +0000

Three cheers for Daken's perspective, and thanks for sharing it. Priceless.

By: emilysarah

emilysarah — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 11:56:02 +0000

I told Daken before he went to preK. He feels very special now. I pray you feel uber possible and explode with possibilities! Here's to Daken Day — and as you said, here's to adopting that youthful roll-with-it attitude!

By: dyanavalentine

dyanavalentine — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 02:09:50 +0000

This makes me feel so “possible,” you know? Just the idea that you can be so centered, like Daken, and simply not be bothered by speedbumps–or perceived bumps. I love it. Plus, grandparents are ALWAYS special. Let's all have a Daken Day tomorrow–just roll with it and say what he'd say, instead of getting a sticky in our talk.

By: dyanavalentine

dyanavalentine — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 02:08:07 +0000

YESSS! and yes again, in a calmer voice. This is super exciting. You know what I'm learning from you, right now? Maybe everything doesn't need doing. That's some serious rocket science for me. I like it a lot. I'm focusing tonight's dreams on “this-is-really-what-I-want stuff.” Thank you.

By: emilysarah

emilysarah — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 15:57:21 +0000

Good advice for all of us whether sick or well (re: what needs doing vs. wants doing and recognizing the difference). You're so right (re: children's good perspective)! Daken was perfectly consistent with that five-year-old “in the moment” big-picture contentment. He said it was fun being with me (we cuddled for large chunks of several days). He missed the hyped-up Grandparents' Day special lunch at his school but was totally unmoved about it. After all, they have lunch at his school every day, he reminded me, and his grandparents can come another day. Not only that, but maybe them coming on a day when other children's grandparents weren't there would make HIS being there even more special.

Well, geesh, all of that is so true. (I was lamenting — but not him. He effortlessly elevated that “missed opportunity” into something that will be eventually more special.)

If only I could so easily adapt my preconceived notions and plans.

By: CindyMorefield

CindyMorefield — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 14:06:41 +0000

You're quite welcome. What am I learning about? Well, it is finally starting to sink in – or perhaps I'm learning from the experience of action! – that when I prioritize the big stuff (the strengthening, inspiring, this-is-what-I-really-want stuff), other things fit themselves in, if they are important. That doesn't mean everthing gets done, but I'm so much more energized and satisfied by what IS accomplished. Thanks for asking!